Coping With Divorce Over the Holidays

December 17, 2007

If you are a close friend or family member of someone who is recently separated or divorced, expect emotional turmoil over the holidays. Also, keep in mind that even someone who has been divorced quite a while may still grieve over the holidays. This time of year often reminds us of the people we once loved who are no longer there to share the experience.

Jennifer Coleman, M.S. / Ed.S. N.C.C., and Life Transition Coach for Rosen Law Firm has these suggesetions on what to expect of a loved one over the holdiays who has recently separated or divorced:

1. Expect that emotions may run high. This time of year brings on a mix of emotions that includes joy, sadness, and anxiety.

2. Prepare to give them some space. People who find themselves newly single may fluctuate between being excited about their new relationship status to feeling like a third wheel.

3. Present social activities and engagements with no strings attached. When offering to include your friend or family member in holiday activities, always do so with no obligation.

4. Offer a shoulder to lean on and a listening ear. The best thing you can offer is perhaps a quiet place for your friend or loved one to share what they are going through.

5. Understand when its time to adopt new traditions. When there is an empty chair at the dinner table this year, it just might be too painful for your friend or loved one to sit down as if everything were the same.

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Faith May December 21, 2007 at 4:17 pm

This site is much appreciated. Altho i personally have been divorced just a couple of months short of 20 years, my son has gone thru a difficult time these past few months dealing with fact of his daughter not being there all the time and now with the holidays more so. I believe it is imperative for both parents to share time with the child. Perhaps one on the eve and the other on the day. This does really often fall into place for the one who does not have full custody. (Shared custody should more accessible when living in the same direct area. For the sake of the child) This site in general is much appreciated.
Regards Faith May
Tucson AZ.

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